surprises

Like so many things, it's all in the presentation. I hate when someone says, "I have a surprise for you, but I'm not going to tell you what it is." Well thanks. Now you have unconciously triggered an obsessive compulsive cascade of thoughts that will not cease until the surprise is disclosed. Although it may seem like a bit of an over analysis, a surprise reveals that our illusion of control is just that... an illusion. People just need to realize that a good surprise requires that the recipient have no knowledge of its existence. Ignorance is truly bliss in this situation. The giver, even if unaware of their taunting, is bordering cruel and unusual punishment. Take a lesson from life, when it suprises you, you never saw it coming. Unfortunately in the case of unwelcome surprises, having no time to prepare yourself can make things much more difficult to accept. But, the beautiful most desireable outcome to a surprise is achieved through the same abrupt delivery. Something you didn't expect sweeps you up into emotions you may have not previously known you were capable of. Especially if the surprise is a person. And even more so if that person is a true embodiment of all the things you immensely respect, attempt to emulate, and unavoidably love ; )